Is there a true ideal weight?

We all are born differently. We have different traits eyes noses color of skin etc.. So is there really a perfect weight someone should be at? The answer is no. We all have unique bond structures that sometimes make most of our weight. For example, I have a thick bone structure, so most of my body is boney but I do have some muscle on me too. Women going through child birth, our bodies are never the same after giving birth to a child. We can try as hard as we can to slim down but it won’t be like it was before. There are those people who are always on the road for their jobs. For example, truckers who are sitting in a truck most of the time tend to be on the bigger side because they’re not exposed to exercise like other people are daily. Also fast food tends to be more convenient for them. We all can’t help the way we are. For some people it’s easier for them to lose weight than others. We have different life styles when it comes to work and being at home etc.. Some people are more attracted to bigger people than others. Some people like butts over boobs. Some people like a dad bod and others don’t. There is someone made for al of us. So why should we be judged on our weight? It makes us beautiful and unique individuals. Be happy with the way you are. You were made to be special whether it’s in your families eyes or others, it shouldn’t matter as long as you love yourself than that is what the biggest power there is. Some women with bigger boobs have self confidence issues because they don’t like the size of them. I have a friend who she loves her body for the most part but wishes her chest was smaller, she can’t help the way she was born. I think she is blessed to have big boobs! Sometimes I wish I had bigger boobs but I do love my boobs in the end. Who cares what people say or think about our weight, let you do you. With social media these days, we have the influencers who put into our heads that if you don’t look this way then you won’t get likes comments etc. you won’t become popular. We think oh if we look this way then we will get a woman or man but in all reality it’s not true. We shouldn’t conform to outside influences but who do because it’s hard to avoid it. l

Also happy birthday to my amazing boyfriend❤️

Arguments

We all experience arguments in our lives whether they’re positive or negative they happen even when it seems like it’s not in our control. There are different ways we can go upon arguments. For example, some people yell to get their point across, especially men. Men tend to bottle in their feelings more than women who tend to be more open and express our feelings differently. Take into consideration when you do yell at someone how they feel. I know whenever someone yells at me especially for no reason and it’s over something stupid. There are better ways to get your point across. If you don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings then tell them the problem or whatever it is in a more calm way. It’s not okay to come about a more negative way. We tend to think more negative than positive naturally. Be that difference especially when it comes to our emotions. We are different but arguments in a negative way just creates more chaos than helps the situation. Also if you’re arguing with a woman and you’re a guy. The woman is always right. Even if she isn’t just roll with the punches. Other people approach arguments more calm. For example, I tend to calm first before bringing up a topic that can cause potential strain. Other kinds of arguments include humorous ones. Where people like to joke and have fun. For example, sports. There are a lot of people who enjoy sports and taking all about sports. Those are just a few. Just try not to start an argument with yelling you’ll end up hurting people more than doing good. I personally hate negativity. I try to be positive as much as I can, so when someone comes in and tries to ruin my mood it does take a toll on me because it’s a toxic mood no one wants.

Honestly baths help me calm down after arguments because it helps me clear my head and just release my mood swings.

Communicate as effectively as possible to avoid arguments. Communication is a huge factor when it comes to arguments. Here eachother other don’t try to voice over eachother. Listen to what the other person has to say.

Body Positivity: Weight loss Journey

The first picture is me now the one below it is from before. For the longest time I have always struggled with losing weight because of how I’m built my diet etc. For the past month I have been working doing 300 squats, 200, lunges, and 200 donkey kicks to lose weight and gain muscle. I have also been doing 45min to an hour of cardio everyday along with core in between here and there. I have lost 10 pounds! I used to weigh 180 and now I’m at 170! My diet is very strict. I only eat certain amount of calories everyday. I don’t binge or have cheat days till the weekend. I want to be able to take care of my body and my health. Anyone can lose weight. As long as you put your heart and soul and lots of time and effort into it. We can all make a difference in our health. I have always wanted a flat stomach and I have finally achieved that goal! I feel so proud of myself because it wasn’t an easy journey. We all have to motivate ourselves to just do it even if we don’t want to. Find what motivates you. For me I have a great support system. I also have personal goals. With those two things put together I feel as if I can accomplish anything. We all come from different backgrounds and that’s okay. It makes us who we are. Find that inner coach and just go for it. And don’t stop after the first day build that healthy habit. You’re body and health will thank you.

Dandruff: My personal story

Hello gorgeous babes! Happy Friday 🙂 I thought about sharing one of my personal battles with dandruff. When I was born, I didn’t have really bad dandruff at all. It didn’t develop till I was either in the 5th or 6th grade. During this time period as well I had unfortunately developed lice. So that was also making it a lot worse than it probably should’ve been. I used head and shoulders for a few months just to see how it would’ve helped with my kind of hair plus the dandruff. Unfortunately it actually make it a lot worse for me than it probably should’ve been. I asked my parents one day, does anyone in our family have dandruff? For me I did not know anyone who also had it besides just me. Come to find out my late grandfather had dandruff as well. So it was at least nice to know I got it through genetics. I tried multiple shampoo suggestions by different hair stylist, until one day a gal had told me about Neutrogena and their brand called T/Gel therapeutic shampoo. Ever since using it I feel like my hair is so much healthier and under a lot more control. I don’t have to always worry about white flakes showing on my head or anything. It really does help my hair. So if you’re someone who also struggles with dandruff, try my recommendation of Neutrogena T/Gel formula. You can find it at Target, Walmart, or Amazon.

Dating for Women

For women we are people who typically look for something more serious rather than someone just for friends with benefits or open relationship. We tend to want commitment from our partner because it shows us that they’re just as serious about us as we are about them. It’s like reassurance to us. From my point of view, I’ve noticed that through my life I was going towards men that didn’t want anything serious and just wanted a booty call, which wasn’t what I wanted but it still gave me the dating experience I needed to know what I want or didn’t want in my life long partner. Dating is a great way to get that experience. For example if you think you have a certain type then date that type you gravitate towards that way you know if this is something or someone you really do want. It’s good to have different experiences too because you need to think about what do you really want? I asked myself that before I met my boyfriend. I thought I knew but turned out I wasn’t sure. I went on a few dates here and there, which I learned from these experiences and lead me closer to finding my person. We also tend to get jealous very easily so being in an open relationship isn’t very ideal if you’re wanting to be serious with just one person. If you’re someone who wants an open relationship, props to you. I wouldn’t be able to do it. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. We all have our own insecurities and flaws, but finding that person who can not only accept your flaws but embraces them in a positive way should lead you down the right track. It helps to have self confidence too. That’s one of the characteristics most men tend to go for. If you’re someone who struggles with self confidence, that’s okay. Maybe you’re just not ready yet. I wasn’t ready yet for a very long time. I had to rediscover myself first. Discover what you really value too in someone. For example, I value honesty respect generosity and their strive towards goals they have set for themselves to name a few. I’ve looked back in my past and I realized and thought to myself why would I settle for less than what I deserve? I shouldn’t settle, I should want more. We all come from different backgrounds of the dating realm. Some of us with little experience some of us with a lot, as long as you take that time to really know what you want for yourself that should be your own priority.

Cheating

There are two types of cheating, emotional and physical. Depending on our gender too we tend to gravitate towards one over the other. Women tend to be in more pain when their partner emotionally cheats, whereas men tend to get upset when women physically cheat. When it comes to our emotions, we can’t sometimes help the way we feel about things. It makes us human when we have emotions. Sometimes it can be the reverse, but it’s more and likely for these specific genders to gravitate to these forms of cheating. For example, I remember when I found out a former ex of mine was talking to multiple women while dating me, it crushed my heart inside because it makes me question if I was ever good enough for them or what am I doing wrong for them to act out in this way. Later on as I’ve grown older and learned more with life experiences, it wasn’t my fault. I did nothing wrong. That person didn’t deserve my time or energy. He didn’t value me or treat me very well. I was constantly taken for granted. Another example for physical cheating is when a woman sleeps with someone else or a man. Those people tend to keeps those things a secret till their partner finds out and blows up in their face. If you’re married and you cheat accidentally on your partner be honest with them. Any form of substance such as drugs or alcohol can effect our actions and how we act. We don’t always have clear thoughts. Try your best to work it out. Family comes first in these times. In my own experience emotional cheating hurts worse than physical because you invest time, energy, money, etc into that one person which causes feelings to develop over time. Men tend to not take women’s feelings into account. It’s just an observation I’ve made not only from my own past experiences but also from friends and families experiences too. Women when they tend to physically cheat on their partner they typically don’t have feelings for their partner anymore, but also don’t want to break their partners heart. Taking time apart helps to respark that love interest again.

Photo of my sister and I

Dream journal: Debate about laundry

Hey gorgeous babes! Hope you guys had an amazing Fourth of July! There have been a couple of pretty intense earthquakes here in California. So to my audience members who are also from California I hope you’re safe and everything is okay 🙂

The intense debate about laundry was a dream I had a couple nights ago. My boyfriend and I decided to get a pretty good size apartment for just us and a couple of guests or family members to visit. I woke up to him in my dream one morning just in utterly love and embrace and warmth I have for him. We get out of bed and start to make breakfast for us and our friends who decided to stay the night. We all had a great conversation about snoring and farting in our sleep because why not! Who doesn’t fart or snore in their sleep we all do one of them at some point in our life. Then we all had to do laundry at once and there was only one washer and dryer in our apartment. We grabbed white boards and paper to write down our stats onto who goes first for doing laundry. We kept on bickering back and fourth about who had the most, who usually takes the longest, or who uses the least amount of detergent. The dream had ended with us having a Rock Paper Scissors battle. Ultimately I was crowned victor!!!