What is love? It’s a question people have asked themselves for thousands of years. So what is it? Love isn’t something that is actually defined. It’s thoughts, feelings, actions, and behaviors that we experience as human beings towards other human beings. We all experience it, whether it’s for family, friends, a pet, or even towards another person. We all experience love through the way we behave and interact towards others. However, love is often blind. Growing up we experience things like “crushes” or “multiple girl/boyfriends”. We don’t think much of it. Most women or men who have insecurities often tend to get hurt the most because they rely too heavily on others to make them happy and to make them feel good about themselves. It shouldn’t matter what someone says about you. You need to love yourself before loving someone else. We shouldn’t rely on someone trying to shape us or try everything in order for that person to love and accept you. If they can’t handle the kind of person you are, like your family does, then they’re not worth your time. It’s cruel for people to feed off our love and compassion as humans we decide to give towards others, just for them to take advantage of us. It’s life. We can not learn or grow as individuals without experience or pain. We aren’t perfect nor will we ever be. Family love is always unconditional. No matter what happens in life, family will always love and accept you for who you are, even if it kills them inside. The worst feeling is when you “love” someone and they just abuse you, whether it’s verbal, physical, or emotional. The trust you have given that other person, shouldn’t be taken lightly. It’s always harder to regain trust than it is to give it. The love we develop as humans for our child the moment they are born is the most purest of forms of love. Their your own creation with another person. They’re your precious gem. You don’t ever want anything to happen to them, only the best. When you lose a loved one, it’s extremely painful. We grieve. We hurt. It’s the worst feeling ever. Unfortunately for some people, other serious matters can result, but that’s another topic to be discussed another time. Actions always speak louder than words! Our actions can speak louder than simply telling someone you love them. For example, in a past relationship I was in, I was in love with this person. I always made sure they were taken cared of. I would give them items, buy them anything if they needed, lend them money too. However, they never did the same back. After a while I felt as if they didn’t want to be with me anymore (which was right). Sometimes proving to someone that you love them doesn’t have to be by buying that other person stuff. You can simply just go out of your way to be there for that other individual, or even attend family gatherings, for example, just so then you’re emotionally supporting that person. Let me tell you, family gatherings aren’t always fun or enjoyable. There are other ways to show someone you love them, not always by telling them. Love is a word taken lightly and used without actual meaning behind it. Some people will tell you “I love you”, but they will only tell you that to make you happy, not for actual meaning or purpose behind it. If you actually love someone, don’t joke about it. Don’t be afraid either to tell someone how you feel because you’ll end up hurting yourself internally. We are humans. We all have feelings. Honestly, if you have feelings for someone or you find someone attractive, tell them. We all fear rejection, however you don’t know if something is going to happen until you take that risk. If things are meant to be they will happen within their own time. Don’t force anything. Do not control anyone! If you find yourself trying to make decisions for someone else, that is when you excuse yourself from the room. It is never okay to control someone. We are individuals. Not two people in one. We may not always think the same, but we all have rights to expressing ourselves in our own ways/ opinions. Don’t be afraid to love or to be loved. It’s a risk worth taking. How are we supposed to make better versions of ourselves if we don’t allow ourselves to become vulnerable? Love is a word never to be taken lightly or used lightly. If you do love someone, be genuine. Also if someone doesn’t say “I love you” back after the first time of you expressing it to you, that doesn’t mean they don’t care about you. It simply means they’re not feeling the same quite yet about you. Everyone develops feelings on their own time.
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My name is Samantha! I go by either Sam or Sammy. I am a psychology major at Cal. State University, Bakersfield. I am 21 years old. I love sports, traveling, food, writing, and spending time with friends and family. I have two dogs! My goal of this blog is to give women and men a voice. I want them to know they're not alone and I will be here for them, through anything that life throws at them! I want to also encourage people to become better versions of themselves, in order to be happy with who they are as a person. :) Follow my Instagram account @sam_basso1020 View all posts by Sammy