For women we are people who typically look for something more serious rather than someone just for friends with benefits or open relationship. We tend to want commitment from our partner because it shows us that they’re just as serious about us as we are about them. It’s like reassurance to us. From my point of view, I’ve noticed that through my life I was going towards men that didn’t want anything serious and just wanted a booty call, which wasn’t what I wanted but it still gave me the dating experience I needed to know what I want or didn’t want in my life long partner. Dating is a great way to get that experience. For example if you think you have a certain type then date that type you gravitate towards that way you know if this is something or someone you really do want. It’s good to have different experiences too because you need to think about what do you really want? I asked myself that before I met my boyfriend. I thought I knew but turned out I wasn’t sure. I went on a few dates here and there, which I learned from these experiences and lead me closer to finding my person. We also tend to get jealous very easily so being in an open relationship isn’t very ideal if you’re wanting to be serious with just one person. If you’re someone who wants an open relationship, props to you. I wouldn’t be able to do it. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. We all have our own insecurities and flaws, but finding that person who can not only accept your flaws but embraces them in a positive way should lead you down the right track. It helps to have self confidence too. That’s one of the characteristics most men tend to go for. If you’re someone who struggles with self confidence, that’s okay. Maybe you’re just not ready yet. I wasn’t ready yet for a very long time. I had to rediscover myself first. Discover what you really value too in someone. For example, I value honesty respect generosity and their strive towards goals they have set for themselves to name a few. I’ve looked back in my past and I realized and thought to myself why would I settle for less than what I deserve? I shouldn’t settle, I should want more. We all come from different backgrounds of the dating realm. Some of us with little experience some of us with a lot, as long as you take that time to really know what you want for yourself that should be your own priority.
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My name is Samantha! I go by either Sam or Sammy. I am a psychology major at Cal. State University, Bakersfield. I am 21 years old. I love sports, traveling, food, writing, and spending time with friends and family. I have two dogs! My goal of this blog is to give women and men a voice. I want them to know they're not alone and I will be here for them, through anything that life throws at them! I want to also encourage people to become better versions of themselves, in order to be happy with who they are as a person. :) Follow my Instagram account @sam_basso1020 View all posts by Sammy