Mental health day

Some of you guys may know about some of my mental health problems I’ve had in my past, but for those who don’t I would love to be open about it. I suffered peripartum and postpartum depression. For those who aren’t familiar with those two terms peripartum is developed during pregnancy and postpartum is depression that follows afterwards. Another thing I didn’t really realize I had till later on in life was post traumatic stress disorder, also known as, PTSD. I had develop these things all after a traumatic event that really changed my life for ever. I have written a blog about this event previously so I do encourage if you do want to know what had happened to read it. I want people to know that mental health is no joke. Sometimes I find myself steal dealing with a little bit of PTSD, but it does get easier because I have the support system out there. I know it’s something that’s hard for a lot of people to talk about or be open to vulnerability, but just know you’re not alone. There are so many strong people battling mental health every single day. Keep your head strong and keep fighting.

What kind of communicator are you?

There are four general categories of communication. First is the outspoken, direct, and assertive. These kind of people tend to stand up for own needs or wants. They’re usually more stubborn and set in their own ways and ideas. Also, tend to not like the idea of change. Second, are those who are quiet, reserved, or passive. These people avoid arguments, don’t really like confrontation, like to keep things peaceful, and usually just keep more to themselves. An example would be like if you and your partner got into a fight and they leave the room, that’s when they’re passive, reserved, etc. Third, are those who are thoughtful and analytical. You analyze certain situation, you don’t jump into conclusions right away, take your time, or you like to hear ideas, to name a few of ways to be like this. Lastly, are those who are friendly and unassuming. These people are modest, nonjudgmental, or unpretentious. I find myself falling into all of these ways of communicating, however I find myself in friendly because I have a personality where I’m open minded and I tend to get along with everyone. Which kind are you?

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Being Mindful of Others

It is important to keep in mind about those around around you because your actions can effect them either negatively or positively. For example, if you live with someone and they have the habit of staying up late and coming home late, let them know ahead of time that you have to get up early in the morning or that you’ll be asleep by a certain time each night. That way they know to be quiet when they get home. It’s difficult to live with people at times, especially if your experiences are all new to them. Another example is, if there is a large group of people walking in front of you and there isn’t a way to go around them, just ask to say excuse me or pardon me, that way they can get out of the way. Those people can also be respectful and form a single file line. Every action can lead to another action. It is important to be looking up while walking, running, or any time you’re on your feet and to be aware of surroundings. If you’re out on a date and its cold outside and who ever you’re on a date with is clearly freezing cold, be generous and offer them your jacket or sweatshirt. Hold doors open for people because sometimes they have their hands full and may not always have a chance to open a door. Being mindful in a positive way can even change someones day. Let’s say your partner is having a rough day and you want to make them feel better. Doing little things for them can greatly change their mood. Buying flowers, taking them out for dinner, or giving them a massage to name a few can really impact them.

Childhood Sexual Abuse: How it can effect your child as an adult

Childhood sexual abuse hasn’t been studied a whole lot till more recently in the past few decades. It’s also something a lot of people are unaware of inside their own household or environment. When a child has been exposed to beatings, emotional abuse, such as foul language, or even sexual trauma to name a few it can have a huge effect on them greatly. Take a look at beating your child to start off. When your child goes to school and they show up with bruises, scars, or even serious injuries, it can raise concern from a teachers perspective. Then as an adult, they can inflict that same pain to their own children if they have any because that’s how they were raised as a child. Everything has a cause and an effect. As a parent you can potentially get your children taken away without even knowing it. You may think you’re doing the right thing but in reality you’re causing more harm than doing good. Sexually abuses your child is definitely a topic a lot of parents or anyone wants to talk about, but it is something that needs to be addressed. Abusing your child like that, especially at such a young age can make them feel so insecure about themselves and can leave ever lasting scars. It can effect the way they’re able to build relationships with other people especially friends or even a potentially spouse. They may never feel comfortable ever having sex as an adult ever again because of the trauma they had lived through and experienced. As a child, they don’t talk about those kinds of things because there is a fear of getting harmed from that parent, when they return from wherever they were at, like school or sports practice. There is a great risk of developing anxiety of any kind and even depression. Lastly, abusive language can leave a mark on your child and can reflect on how they develop as an adult. Abusive language can lead to your child abusing others with language because they don’t know anything else. Their social skills and development has been greatly impacted because it reflects back onto how they were raised. These three things are also things that can lead to crimes of any kind. We need to be aware of our actions as humans because it can leave impacts good or bad.