Being Mindful of Others

It is important to keep in mind about those around around you because your actions can effect them either negatively or positively. For example, if you live with someone and they have the habit of staying up late and coming home late, let them know ahead of time that you have to get up early in the morning or that you’ll be asleep by a certain time each night. That way they know to be quiet when they get home. It’s difficult to live with people at times, especially if your experiences are all new to them. Another example is, if there is a large group of people walking in front of you and there isn’t a way to go around them, just ask to say excuse me or pardon me, that way they can get out of the way. Those people can also be respectful and form a single file line. Every action can lead to another action. It is important to be looking up while walking, running, or any time you’re on your feet and to be aware of surroundings. If you’re out on a date and its cold outside and who ever you’re on a date with is clearly freezing cold, be generous and offer them your jacket or sweatshirt. Hold doors open for people because sometimes they have their hands full and may not always have a chance to open a door. Being mindful in a positive way can even change someones day. Let’s say your partner is having a rough day and you want to make them feel better. Doing little things for them can greatly change their mood. Buying flowers, taking them out for dinner, or giving them a massage to name a few can really impact them.

Childhood Sexual Abuse: How it can effect your child as an adult

Childhood sexual abuse hasn’t been studied a whole lot till more recently in the past few decades. It’s also something a lot of people are unaware of inside their own household or environment. When a child has been exposed to beatings, emotional abuse, such as foul language, or even sexual trauma to name a few it can have a huge effect on them greatly. Take a look at beating your child to start off. When your child goes to school and they show up with bruises, scars, or even serious injuries, it can raise concern from a teachers perspective. Then as an adult, they can inflict that same pain to their own children if they have any because that’s how they were raised as a child. Everything has a cause and an effect. As a parent you can potentially get your children taken away without even knowing it. You may think you’re doing the right thing but in reality you’re causing more harm than doing good. Sexually abuses your child is definitely a topic a lot of parents or anyone wants to talk about, but it is something that needs to be addressed. Abusing your child like that, especially at such a young age can make them feel so insecure about themselves and can leave ever lasting scars. It can effect the way they’re able to build relationships with other people especially friends or even a potentially spouse. They may never feel comfortable ever having sex as an adult ever again because of the trauma they had lived through and experienced. As a child, they don’t talk about those kinds of things because there is a fear of getting harmed from that parent, when they return from wherever they were at, like school or sports practice. There is a great risk of developing anxiety of any kind and even depression. Lastly, abusive language can leave a mark on your child and can reflect on how they develop as an adult. Abusive language can lead to your child abusing others with language because they don’t know anything else. Their social skills and development has been greatly impacted because it reflects back onto how they were raised. These three things are also things that can lead to crimes of any kind. We need to be aware of our actions as humans because it can leave impacts good or bad.

Dream journal: the fight against the master of Halloween

I had a dream last night that I was with my family at my grandmas house when an the evil spirit Halloween took over the neighborhood. This demonic Halloween master would summon all these evil spirits or things we were the most afraid of. For me it was spiders. At some point I was trapped in a spider web struggling to get to a knife I had in my pocket to cut me loose. It was a real life horror event because Halloween is supposed to be scary. I had to rescue my own family throughout because I didn’t want anything bad to happen to them. We eventually found a way to summon Santa Claus to help save us. We broke a glass ball that at anytime would summon Santa to help. I’m not sure where this ball came from but there was a giant chest full of them all labeled differently. But Halloween feeds off of fear so he was already stronger than Santa by a long shot. Then out of no where the zodiac signs were summoned which was pretty cool than some how Zeus comes in and kills Halloween and sends him back to his realm. It was a clash of many different realms and beliefs in cultures.

Is there a true ideal weight?

We all are born differently. We have different traits eyes noses color of skin etc.. So is there really a perfect weight someone should be at? The answer is no. We all have unique bond structures that sometimes make most of our weight. For example, I have a thick bone structure, so most of my body is boney but I do have some muscle on me too. Women going through child birth, our bodies are never the same after giving birth to a child. We can try as hard as we can to slim down but it won’t be like it was before. There are those people who are always on the road for their jobs. For example, truckers who are sitting in a truck most of the time tend to be on the bigger side because they’re not exposed to exercise like other people are daily. Also fast food tends to be more convenient for them. We all can’t help the way we are. For some people it’s easier for them to lose weight than others. We have different life styles when it comes to work and being at home etc.. Some people are more attracted to bigger people than others. Some people like butts over boobs. Some people like a dad bod and others don’t. There is someone made for al of us. So why should we be judged on our weight? It makes us beautiful and unique individuals. Be happy with the way you are. You were made to be special whether it’s in your families eyes or others, it shouldn’t matter as long as you love yourself than that is what the biggest power there is. Some women with bigger boobs have self confidence issues because they don’t like the size of them. I have a friend who she loves her body for the most part but wishes her chest was smaller, she can’t help the way she was born. I think she is blessed to have big boobs! Sometimes I wish I had bigger boobs but I do love my boobs in the end. Who cares what people say or think about our weight, let you do you. With social media these days, we have the influencers who put into our heads that if you don’t look this way then you won’t get likes comments etc. you won’t become popular. We think oh if we look this way then we will get a woman or man but in all reality it’s not true. We shouldn’t conform to outside influences but who do because it’s hard to avoid it. l

Also happy birthday to my amazing boyfriend❤️

Arguments

We all experience arguments in our lives whether they’re positive or negative they happen even when it seems like it’s not in our control. There are different ways we can go upon arguments. For example, some people yell to get their point across, especially men. Men tend to bottle in their feelings more than women who tend to be more open and express our feelings differently. Take into consideration when you do yell at someone how they feel. I know whenever someone yells at me especially for no reason and it’s over something stupid. There are better ways to get your point across. If you don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings then tell them the problem or whatever it is in a more calm way. It’s not okay to come about a more negative way. We tend to think more negative than positive naturally. Be that difference especially when it comes to our emotions. We are different but arguments in a negative way just creates more chaos than helps the situation. Also if you’re arguing with a woman and you’re a guy. The woman is always right. Even if she isn’t just roll with the punches. Other people approach arguments more calm. For example, I tend to calm first before bringing up a topic that can cause potential strain. Other kinds of arguments include humorous ones. Where people like to joke and have fun. For example, sports. There are a lot of people who enjoy sports and taking all about sports. Those are just a few. Just try not to start an argument with yelling you’ll end up hurting people more than doing good. I personally hate negativity. I try to be positive as much as I can, so when someone comes in and tries to ruin my mood it does take a toll on me because it’s a toxic mood no one wants.

Honestly baths help me calm down after arguments because it helps me clear my head and just release my mood swings.

Communicate as effectively as possible to avoid arguments. Communication is a huge factor when it comes to arguments. Here eachother other don’t try to voice over eachother. Listen to what the other person has to say.

Body Positivity: Weight loss Journey

The first picture is me now the one below it is from before. For the longest time I have always struggled with losing weight because of how I’m built my diet etc. For the past month I have been working doing 300 squats, 200, lunges, and 200 donkey kicks to lose weight and gain muscle. I have also been doing 45min to an hour of cardio everyday along with core in between here and there. I have lost 10 pounds! I used to weigh 180 and now I’m at 170! My diet is very strict. I only eat certain amount of calories everyday. I don’t binge or have cheat days till the weekend. I want to be able to take care of my body and my health. Anyone can lose weight. As long as you put your heart and soul and lots of time and effort into it. We can all make a difference in our health. I have always wanted a flat stomach and I have finally achieved that goal! I feel so proud of myself because it wasn’t an easy journey. We all have to motivate ourselves to just do it even if we don’t want to. Find what motivates you. For me I have a great support system. I also have personal goals. With those two things put together I feel as if I can accomplish anything. We all come from different backgrounds and that’s okay. It makes us who we are. Find that inner coach and just go for it. And don’t stop after the first day build that healthy habit. You’re body and health will thank you.