Dream Journal: Dragon

So I was able to transform into a dragon there was this guy trying to hunt me down but never knew what my human state looked like. So I was grocery shopping with you one day and there was a robbery I literally picked my boyfriend up and flew him out of there because I wanted to protect my boyfriend. Then I went back to make sure everything was okay once I got you out of there and he was safe. This random dude comes over to me in my human form I’m out of my dragon form and tried to accuse me of drinking although I was sober af and I’m over here like wtf? He was a cop too so I was like okay go ahead and accuse me and test me cause I’ll pass with flying colors. So he tests me and I pass and he lets me go I’m like dude I could’ve been saving these people and yet you’re over here wasting my time laughs at me and asks me how can you possibly save them. I told him watch. As I’m running into the store I transform into my dragon state and I smacked the officer with my tail. Unfortunately this is the time I woke up so that’s where it ended 🙂 hope you guys enjoyed this dream of mine!

Mental health day

Some of you guys may know about some of my mental health problems I’ve had in my past, but for those who don’t I would love to be open about it. I suffered peripartum and postpartum depression. For those who aren’t familiar with those two terms peripartum is developed during pregnancy and postpartum is depression that follows afterwards. Another thing I didn’t really realize I had till later on in life was post traumatic stress disorder, also known as, PTSD. I had develop these things all after a traumatic event that really changed my life for ever. I have written a blog about this event previously so I do encourage if you do want to know what had happened to read it. I want people to know that mental health is no joke. Sometimes I find myself steal dealing with a little bit of PTSD, but it does get easier because I have the support system out there. I know it’s something that’s hard for a lot of people to talk about or be open to vulnerability, but just know you’re not alone. There are so many strong people battling mental health every single day. Keep your head strong and keep fighting.

Body Positive: Skin Care Routine/ Products

Hey babes! I thought I’d take today to really talk to you guys about what I use for my skin!

So my secret so having such good skin is I use two products from Sephora as an everyday day and night skin time routine. The first product I use is an AMA Cleanse skin gel. It’s for the face, neck, and around the eyes. It has a blue tag. The benefits are that it tones and cleanses your skin. The ingredients are water, coco-glucoside, glycerin, xanthan, sodium PCA, parfum, citric acid, sodium Benzoate, potassium sorbate, aloe extract, and sodium hydroxide. Usually I use this while I shower right before I get out of the shower because you’re supposed to massage it over wet skin and rinse. The next product I use is a HYA super hydration all day hydrator. You can use this product as a primer but apply this when your skin is dry and all clean. It has a pink tag. There are too many ingredients to list so I’ll insert a picture of the ingredients instead. I recommend these two highly because my skin has looked way since using these two products on a daily 🙂

This is all my own opinion based on my own results.

Is there a true ideal weight?

We all are born differently. We have different traits eyes noses color of skin etc.. So is there really a perfect weight someone should be at? The answer is no. We all have unique bond structures that sometimes make most of our weight. For example, I have a thick bone structure, so most of my body is boney but I do have some muscle on me too. Women going through child birth, our bodies are never the same after giving birth to a child. We can try as hard as we can to slim down but it won’t be like it was before. There are those people who are always on the road for their jobs. For example, truckers who are sitting in a truck most of the time tend to be on the bigger side because they’re not exposed to exercise like other people are daily. Also fast food tends to be more convenient for them. We all can’t help the way we are. For some people it’s easier for them to lose weight than others. We have different life styles when it comes to work and being at home etc.. Some people are more attracted to bigger people than others. Some people like butts over boobs. Some people like a dad bod and others don’t. There is someone made for al of us. So why should we be judged on our weight? It makes us beautiful and unique individuals. Be happy with the way you are. You were made to be special whether it’s in your families eyes or others, it shouldn’t matter as long as you love yourself than that is what the biggest power there is. Some women with bigger boobs have self confidence issues because they don’t like the size of them. I have a friend who she loves her body for the most part but wishes her chest was smaller, she can’t help the way she was born. I think she is blessed to have big boobs! Sometimes I wish I had bigger boobs but I do love my boobs in the end. Who cares what people say or think about our weight, let you do you. With social media these days, we have the influencers who put into our heads that if you don’t look this way then you won’t get likes comments etc. you won’t become popular. We think oh if we look this way then we will get a woman or man but in all reality it’s not true. We shouldn’t conform to outside influences but who do because it’s hard to avoid it. l

Also happy birthday to my amazing boyfriend❤️

Arguments

We all experience arguments in our lives whether they’re positive or negative they happen even when it seems like it’s not in our control. There are different ways we can go upon arguments. For example, some people yell to get their point across, especially men. Men tend to bottle in their feelings more than women who tend to be more open and express our feelings differently. Take into consideration when you do yell at someone how they feel. I know whenever someone yells at me especially for no reason and it’s over something stupid. There are better ways to get your point across. If you don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings then tell them the problem or whatever it is in a more calm way. It’s not okay to come about a more negative way. We tend to think more negative than positive naturally. Be that difference especially when it comes to our emotions. We are different but arguments in a negative way just creates more chaos than helps the situation. Also if you’re arguing with a woman and you’re a guy. The woman is always right. Even if she isn’t just roll with the punches. Other people approach arguments more calm. For example, I tend to calm first before bringing up a topic that can cause potential strain. Other kinds of arguments include humorous ones. Where people like to joke and have fun. For example, sports. There are a lot of people who enjoy sports and taking all about sports. Those are just a few. Just try not to start an argument with yelling you’ll end up hurting people more than doing good. I personally hate negativity. I try to be positive as much as I can, so when someone comes in and tries to ruin my mood it does take a toll on me because it’s a toxic mood no one wants.

Honestly baths help me calm down after arguments because it helps me clear my head and just release my mood swings.

Communicate as effectively as possible to avoid arguments. Communication is a huge factor when it comes to arguments. Here eachother other don’t try to voice over eachother. Listen to what the other person has to say.

Dating for Women

For women we are people who typically look for something more serious rather than someone just for friends with benefits or open relationship. We tend to want commitment from our partner because it shows us that they’re just as serious about us as we are about them. It’s like reassurance to us. From my point of view, I’ve noticed that through my life I was going towards men that didn’t want anything serious and just wanted a booty call, which wasn’t what I wanted but it still gave me the dating experience I needed to know what I want or didn’t want in my life long partner. Dating is a great way to get that experience. For example if you think you have a certain type then date that type you gravitate towards that way you know if this is something or someone you really do want. It’s good to have different experiences too because you need to think about what do you really want? I asked myself that before I met my boyfriend. I thought I knew but turned out I wasn’t sure. I went on a few dates here and there, which I learned from these experiences and lead me closer to finding my person. We also tend to get jealous very easily so being in an open relationship isn’t very ideal if you’re wanting to be serious with just one person. If you’re someone who wants an open relationship, props to you. I wouldn’t be able to do it. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. We all have our own insecurities and flaws, but finding that person who can not only accept your flaws but embraces them in a positive way should lead you down the right track. It helps to have self confidence too. That’s one of the characteristics most men tend to go for. If you’re someone who struggles with self confidence, that’s okay. Maybe you’re just not ready yet. I wasn’t ready yet for a very long time. I had to rediscover myself first. Discover what you really value too in someone. For example, I value honesty respect generosity and their strive towards goals they have set for themselves to name a few. I’ve looked back in my past and I realized and thought to myself why would I settle for less than what I deserve? I shouldn’t settle, I should want more. We all come from different backgrounds of the dating realm. Some of us with little experience some of us with a lot, as long as you take that time to really know what you want for yourself that should be your own priority.

Body Positivity: Self Worth/Value

To know what you deserve in the world can really push your own individual boundaries which leads to many different possibilities. To find your identity and where you fit into society and your purpose can really show people that you’re not afraid anymore. We all live in fear in our own ways. Even the bravest of people of something they’re afraid of. For myself. It’s taken me many trials and errors to really understand where I belong in society and what I deserve in someone. It’s a life journey that can take someone years, months, or even days to find out. It falls back to where you need to self reflect on yourself. What makes me happy? What are my hobbies? What are my quirks? What makes me stand out? What makes me unique and different? Then, when you’re trying to find your special someone, take time to figure out what you want in someone. Don’t settle for someone less than what you have in mind as your perfect person. Every date you go on or even relationship you’ve been in, will bring you closer to finding out what you really deserve and want in your life. For myself, I haven’t been in a relationship for about 9 months. It’s taken me a while to figure out what I deserve. I’ve gone on many dates and learned something new about myself each time and about what I want in someone. It’s lead to finding my best friend. Through many different outcomes and battles that I personally had to face, it’s lead me to what I deserve in my life. I couldn’t ask for anything better. Also, as a student, it’s taken me about a year to really figure out what I wanted to do with my life. With different classes, it’s lead me to realize what my strengths and weaknesses are. I’ve decided on becoming a child psychologist because I have a natural gift for kids and I love helping kids of all kinds. To have the strive and passion for something as this, can really impact other individuals. It’s my purpose. I know my self worth and value because of all the trials and battles I’ve had to face. To realize that we can all reflect on our own unique lives and learn from them, think to yourself, what do I deserve? What makes me happy? What do I deserve? Knowing your place, push yourself to get there. It’s just the start of an ever ending battle. We all have our own inner demons we battle. Our doubts and self confidence deflated especially after something bad happens like losing your job. Something like that will hit you hard and life changing, but it’s not the end of the world. Things will always get better it’s just the way life is. We all have our ups and downs. It’s a matter of knowing our self worth and value and find your place in the world. It will make you feel wanted and valued. To have that appreciation will really make your entire attitude happier and more positive. Sometimes-knowing your self worth and value can lead to more things happening and occurring in your life. For example, it can lead you to your skin glowing, being over all more happy and up beat, and better for your health. Every action has a consequence whether it’s good or bad.