Dream Journal: Dragon

So I was able to transform into a dragon there was this guy trying to hunt me down but never knew what my human state looked like. So I was grocery shopping with you one day and there was a robbery I literally picked my boyfriend up and flew him out of there because I wanted to protect my boyfriend. Then I went back to make sure everything was okay once I got you out of there and he was safe. This random dude comes over to me in my human form I’m out of my dragon form and tried to accuse me of drinking although I was sober af and I’m over here like wtf? He was a cop too so I was like okay go ahead and accuse me and test me cause I’ll pass with flying colors. So he tests me and I pass and he lets me go I’m like dude I could’ve been saving these people and yet you’re over here wasting my time laughs at me and asks me how can you possibly save them. I told him watch. As I’m running into the store I transform into my dragon state and I smacked the officer with my tail. Unfortunately this is the time I woke up so that’s where it ended 🙂 hope you guys enjoyed this dream of mine!

Mental health day

Some of you guys may know about some of my mental health problems I’ve had in my past, but for those who don’t I would love to be open about it. I suffered peripartum and postpartum depression. For those who aren’t familiar with those two terms peripartum is developed during pregnancy and postpartum is depression that follows afterwards. Another thing I didn’t really realize I had till later on in life was post traumatic stress disorder, also known as, PTSD. I had develop these things all after a traumatic event that really changed my life for ever. I have written a blog about this event previously so I do encourage if you do want to know what had happened to read it. I want people to know that mental health is no joke. Sometimes I find myself steal dealing with a little bit of PTSD, but it does get easier because I have the support system out there. I know it’s something that’s hard for a lot of people to talk about or be open to vulnerability, but just know you’re not alone. There are so many strong people battling mental health every single day. Keep your head strong and keep fighting.

How to Improve Language communication

Be concrete and specific: Get in touch with your senses
Be Precise-Use details and examples to avoid ambiguity (“things” and “stuff”)

Use qualifying language to avoid generalizations: avoiding “never” and “always”
EXAMPLE:

“He’s hilarious.” (vague and generalized)

“Tom’s jokes are hilarious.” (better)

“When Tom told the joke about the watermelon, everyone laughed.” (even better)

Adapt language to your listeners (Who): Try to avoid jargon and slang the other person may not understand or may misinterpret ▣

Demonstrate linguistic sensitivity (Be respectful/polite, not sexist, racist, offensive, etc.) ▣

Use “I” statement: Avoid “you” statements. Improve your emotional vocabulary: Clearly articulate your “6th sense”

Improve Message Semantics: Be CONCRETE AND SPECIFIC ○Use concrete and precise language with details and examples to improve specificity. ◦Be CONCRETE: words that describe something that can be sensed ◦Name your senses.   What is the 6th sense? ◦Be PRECISE: Specific descriptive details ○AVOID AMBIGUITY (imprecise): words such as “things”

Dream journal: the fight against the master of Halloween

I had a dream last night that I was with my family at my grandmas house when an the evil spirit Halloween took over the neighborhood. This demonic Halloween master would summon all these evil spirits or things we were the most afraid of. For me it was spiders. At some point I was trapped in a spider web struggling to get to a knife I had in my pocket to cut me loose. It was a real life horror event because Halloween is supposed to be scary. I had to rescue my own family throughout because I didn’t want anything bad to happen to them. We eventually found a way to summon Santa Claus to help save us. We broke a glass ball that at anytime would summon Santa to help. I’m not sure where this ball came from but there was a giant chest full of them all labeled differently. But Halloween feeds off of fear so he was already stronger than Santa by a long shot. Then out of no where the zodiac signs were summoned which was pretty cool than some how Zeus comes in and kills Halloween and sends him back to his realm. It was a clash of many different realms and beliefs in cultures.

Is there a true ideal weight?

We all are born differently. We have different traits eyes noses color of skin etc.. So is there really a perfect weight someone should be at? The answer is no. We all have unique bond structures that sometimes make most of our weight. For example, I have a thick bone structure, so most of my body is boney but I do have some muscle on me too. Women going through child birth, our bodies are never the same after giving birth to a child. We can try as hard as we can to slim down but it won’t be like it was before. There are those people who are always on the road for their jobs. For example, truckers who are sitting in a truck most of the time tend to be on the bigger side because they’re not exposed to exercise like other people are daily. Also fast food tends to be more convenient for them. We all can’t help the way we are. For some people it’s easier for them to lose weight than others. We have different life styles when it comes to work and being at home etc.. Some people are more attracted to bigger people than others. Some people like butts over boobs. Some people like a dad bod and others don’t. There is someone made for al of us. So why should we be judged on our weight? It makes us beautiful and unique individuals. Be happy with the way you are. You were made to be special whether it’s in your families eyes or others, it shouldn’t matter as long as you love yourself than that is what the biggest power there is. Some women with bigger boobs have self confidence issues because they don’t like the size of them. I have a friend who she loves her body for the most part but wishes her chest was smaller, she can’t help the way she was born. I think she is blessed to have big boobs! Sometimes I wish I had bigger boobs but I do love my boobs in the end. Who cares what people say or think about our weight, let you do you. With social media these days, we have the influencers who put into our heads that if you don’t look this way then you won’t get likes comments etc. you won’t become popular. We think oh if we look this way then we will get a woman or man but in all reality it’s not true. We shouldn’t conform to outside influences but who do because it’s hard to avoid it. l

Also happy birthday to my amazing boyfriend❤️

Arguments

We all experience arguments in our lives whether they’re positive or negative they happen even when it seems like it’s not in our control. There are different ways we can go upon arguments. For example, some people yell to get their point across, especially men. Men tend to bottle in their feelings more than women who tend to be more open and express our feelings differently. Take into consideration when you do yell at someone how they feel. I know whenever someone yells at me especially for no reason and it’s over something stupid. There are better ways to get your point across. If you don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings then tell them the problem or whatever it is in a more calm way. It’s not okay to come about a more negative way. We tend to think more negative than positive naturally. Be that difference especially when it comes to our emotions. We are different but arguments in a negative way just creates more chaos than helps the situation. Also if you’re arguing with a woman and you’re a guy. The woman is always right. Even if she isn’t just roll with the punches. Other people approach arguments more calm. For example, I tend to calm first before bringing up a topic that can cause potential strain. Other kinds of arguments include humorous ones. Where people like to joke and have fun. For example, sports. There are a lot of people who enjoy sports and taking all about sports. Those are just a few. Just try not to start an argument with yelling you’ll end up hurting people more than doing good. I personally hate negativity. I try to be positive as much as I can, so when someone comes in and tries to ruin my mood it does take a toll on me because it’s a toxic mood no one wants.

Honestly baths help me calm down after arguments because it helps me clear my head and just release my mood swings.

Communicate as effectively as possible to avoid arguments. Communication is a huge factor when it comes to arguments. Here eachother other don’t try to voice over eachother. Listen to what the other person has to say.

Body Positivity: Weight loss Journey

The first picture is me now the one below it is from before. For the longest time I have always struggled with losing weight because of how I’m built my diet etc. For the past month I have been working doing 300 squats, 200, lunges, and 200 donkey kicks to lose weight and gain muscle. I have also been doing 45min to an hour of cardio everyday along with core in between here and there. I have lost 10 pounds! I used to weigh 180 and now I’m at 170! My diet is very strict. I only eat certain amount of calories everyday. I don’t binge or have cheat days till the weekend. I want to be able to take care of my body and my health. Anyone can lose weight. As long as you put your heart and soul and lots of time and effort into it. We can all make a difference in our health. I have always wanted a flat stomach and I have finally achieved that goal! I feel so proud of myself because it wasn’t an easy journey. We all have to motivate ourselves to just do it even if we don’t want to. Find what motivates you. For me I have a great support system. I also have personal goals. With those two things put together I feel as if I can accomplish anything. We all come from different backgrounds and that’s okay. It makes us who we are. Find that inner coach and just go for it. And don’t stop after the first day build that healthy habit. You’re body and health will thank you.